Domestic abuse does not always start with violence and can begin with seemingly less obvious controlling behaviour, the Isle of Man Constabulary has warned.

The force is using ‘Domestic Abuse Awareness Month’ to highlight signs of abuse which can include jealousy, manipulation, coercive control and monitoring a partner’s messages.

Police said someone making their partner feel guilty for saying no can also be part of abusive behaviour.

The Constabulary is supporting charity Victim Support Isle of Man during the awareness month, with a focus on challenging behaviours linked to domestic abuse, sexual abuse and coercive control.

The warning comes with police urging people not to overlook behaviour simply because it has not become physically violent.

‘Domestic abuse does not always start with violence,’ a spokesperson said.

‘It can begin with jealousy, controlling, coercive and manipulative behaviour, monitoring messages, or making someone feel guilty for saying no.’

Police said support was available around the clock for people experiencing abuse, as well as those concerned about someone else.

‘We will respect your wishes throughout the whole process, we will listen and we will support you,’ the force said.

People who do not feel ready to approach police can use other avenues to report concerns.

Victim Support Isle of Man can be contacted on 679950 or by emailing [email protected]. Face-to-face support is also available at 6 Albert Street, Douglas.

Information can be passed anonymously to Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111.

Anyone in immediate danger should call 999, while the Constabulary’s non-emergency number is 01624 631212.

The Constabulary said: ‘You are not alone. Abuse is never the victim's fault, and support is available.’